I’ve been thinking a lot about family the last couple of days. My Grandma broke her hip last week, then had surgery and has been recovering in a hospital in Windsor, Canada. She’s 87 years old and a fighter but, my mom’s scared that she’s giving up…she’s tired. I feel really far away and again, I’m helpless. I’ve been in this place too many times in the last several months. Other then my grandpa (who I wasn’t really close to), I’ve never lost anyone in my immediate family and honestly, I’m not ready to let her go. Not that I have to yet. She’s struggling, but not in critical condition.

My Grandma, Bernice Isabel McCabe, was jumping rope with me at the age of 65. After my grandpa died in 97, I moved in with Grandma for a few months…we were roomies. She’s always been there. She took me and my siblings on a walking tour of Israel in 2000…she turned 80 that year! A few years ago she decided that she wanted to see us spend our inheritance instead of waiting until she’s gone…my inheritance paid for my wedding! She’s never forgets me and I won’t forget her.

I have weddings every weekend until the middle of October so I might have to fly there and back but, I’d do it in a second. I won’t miss my weddings but, I want to be there for my family too. I’m torn. I know the timing will work out. My sister has it worse…she lives in the South of England. She’s trying to decide when to come and it’s a whole lot further of a distance.

I’d appreciate your prayers: for Grandma, for healing, for wisdom…and anything else I’m not thinking of right now.

Cathy - September 18, 2007 - 9:57 pm

It’s so hard to make those kinds of decisions. My grandmother, who was my cheerleader, protector, guardian angel, etc., had surgery at 86 in Dec. 1999. When she had trouble recovering, she decided she didn’t want to live into the new century and she died in Jan. 2000. I didn’t get home in time. I’ve always regretted that I didn’t see her that week, but I think she did it for me. I miss her every day. The best thing I know is that we talked everyday and she knew how much I loved her. I feel her near me so often. I will pray that your grandmom gets better and that you will make the right decisions at the right time. Thanks for sharing.

Chelie - September 18, 2007 - 10:45 pm

I just lost my grandma at age 96. She was the most influential person in my life, especially spiritually. She is missed by me every day. My daughter is named after her, and it is fun to see some of my grandma in my daughter’s personality! I am so blessed and thankful to the Lord for all the time I did have with her. I am so thankful as well that I will see her again someday in Heaven.
I am praying for you during this difficult time. Your grandma knows you love her…remember that.
Thanks again for your blog. I look forward to it daily and appreciate your sharing.
May God continue to bless you in your life and the special work you do, too…your photos are amazing 🙂

Cecilia - September 19, 2007 - 4:25 am

My prayers are with your grandma and you and all your dear family.

Kristen - September 19, 2007 - 9:36 am

I will definitely keep her and you in my prayers. I know only too well how difficult it is to live far away from family. I am sorry for your pain. I will pray for discernment as you try to figure out what to do. I will also pray for healing for your grandmother.

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

Julie B. - September 19, 2007 - 2:13 pm


I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother. It is definitely a wonderful thing to have the opportunity to have one last visit when you know time is running out. I will pray that you will have wisdom to make the decision and to know when. In the meantime, a phone call might put your mind at ease a little if she’s up for it.

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