It’s 2008!

I was talking to my mom yesterday and she told me 2008 is the year of new beginnings on the Jewish calendar. I had never heard that before but I love new beginnings so I’ll take it.

2007 had so many really high “ups” and really low “downs!” I love the new year because it’s great to think ahead, plan, dream, organize…I love it all. I’m very thankful to be starting off this year with a short vacation. Especially since the day we land in South Carolina it’s supposed to be 69 degrees. WOW! For Matt and I, that’s a dream come true…well, it’s an improvement anyway, no sunburns or bathing suits but no need for winter jackets either. It’ll be nice to be with family.

I’m starting to think about starting to potty train my daughter. Yah…that’s a new beginning! I don’t think either of us is too excited about this venture but with little brother on the way we’re gonna do it. I’ve listened to friends theories and tried some but nothings really worked. Adriah is one of those kids who’s not easily persuaded. I got a couple of months to figure it out. I know a lot of moms read my blog so I thought “why not ask for help?” I’m definitely open to your suggestions…what worked for you?

Don’t worry I’ll still be blogging and checking email and booking consultations…that’s the amazing part of modern technology!

Amanda - January 2, 2008 - 8:41 am

Mom to almost 7 kids here (7th coming in April!) Get the potty chair out and leave it out where she can see it. Put her in underwear, set a timer and sit her on the potty. She is three? We start at 2 and have them trained in a week, give or take a day or two. Get her a book to read and have her sit there for one minute or so to at least give it a chance to work. Praise her ridicuously (stickers, bubbles, etc) if she goes even a little bit. Be consistent,, explain that she is a big girl, and follow through with what you say you will do. She’ll get it 🙂

KS Dallas - January 2, 2008 - 10:03 am

Hi. My daughter is 12 now but when we did potty training the big thing was to give the kid a treat every time they went. I was totally against that as it used food as a reward so I changed it up a little bit and it worked well. I bought a poster board and decorated it with her name, etc. Then I bought a bunch of stickers and put them in a plastic container. Everytime she would go to the bathroom, she would get to put a sticker or two or three on the board. It turned potty time into a fun activity. Anyway, thought I would pass this on. Best of luck with the potty training. Oh – another thing – if you haven’t already – put the potty in the bathroom so it becomes something she sees regularly and it isn’t totally new when you do start the process. Also – allow/encourage her to sit on it – even if she doesn’t do anything the first few times.

KS Dallas

Sue A - January 2, 2008 - 10:21 am

I have twin 2 1/2 year old daughters and they love stickers. So we have potty charts for each week and they get Disney Princess and Barbie stickers when they go on the potty chairs. So far it works pretty good, they just have to work on telling me before they go. Good luck!

Cyndee - January 2, 2008 - 11:29 am

Good luck and God Bless! My two oldest daughters were completely trained at around 26 -27 months. One look at “princess” panties and they were totally motivated. Youngest daughter took a little longer at around 28 months. I got the potty chair out at 18 months (like I had with the others), she was doing what she was supposed to in it at around 21 months and then totally lost interest. She was the whole summer back in diapers and then, in the Fall, trained pretty easily. I think she just thought it would be more fun to have to pack up potty chair, change of clothes, etc. etc. to the older kids sporting events. My son was 2 1/2 and wet the bed forever! My 3 1/2 year old granddaughter in still wetting the bed. My advice: be firm but loving and be prepared for this to take awhile……

Julie - January 2, 2008 - 1:55 pm

I wish I had some advise – I have a son who will be 3 in April with twins on the way to arrive around mid/late February…and I’ve had no success! Like Adriah, Landon is pretty hard to convince to do something until he is ready and I haven’t found that magic solution yet!!! I don’t think I’m going to get it done before the babies arrive, so I’m not forcing it at this point, but you have more time! I’ll have to check in for ideas, too!!!

Good luck to you! Hope you are feeling good and congrats on expecting a boy! I am expecting 2 boys myself, so I will really be outnumbered!!!

Danielle - January 2, 2008 - 2:37 pm

Congratulations on a baby boy! Many prayers for the remainder of your pregnancy. I have a name suggestion. How about Mathias after your husband Matt?

Good Luck with the potty training. Been there done that, twice. The best thing for my girls was to ditch the pull-ups and put your daughter in panties from the start. Have plenty of panties and laundry detergent handy. I set a timer and sent them to the potty every time the timer buzzed. Both of my girls were potty trained in a week. One was 2 1/2 and the other was 26 months.

Good Luck and I hope you are enjoying your time away.

Jamie - January 2, 2008 - 2:53 pm

I am just starting to potty train my little boy, 26 months old. One suggestion that I have recieved was to give him a penny for every time he goes in his “big boy” potty. Then with that penny, he can put it in a gumball machine for a treat. I have already given him a penny.
Good luck with the potty training and congratulations on your pregnancy.

dena - January 3, 2008 - 10:57 am

I don’t have any potty training advice, but i would like to give my thumbs up on the new layout of the website. Looks and works wonderfully 🙂 Congratulations on having a boy!

Val - January 3, 2008 - 2:53 pm

As a mom of 3 boys (5 1/2, 4 and 1), I don’t have much experience with training girls, but I can say that “my” schedule didn’t work so well. Ian would go a few days being trained, and then relapse (especially after baby brother showed up!!!). Actually, he was trained on his first day of preschool (had to be trained to go) and never had an accident (except at nights!) after that. With Scott, I wanted him trained before Evan was born, but didn’t stress about it. Actually, once the baby was born, it helped alot because Scott wanted to be a BIG brother and not wear diapers like the baby did. Voila! He trained himself! I, too, had brought the potty out at 18 months and tried to get them to go, it was so-so successful at times, but with Evan, I will follow his cues and go from there. My boys were both very independent and stubborn, and no amount of treats would entice them to go. But they were both wanting to be “big boys” and that worked best of all. All I know is that pushing too hard just made it harder for me and made them more reluctant to go. Good luck!

Yvette - January 3, 2008 - 9:47 pm

With Annika we started at 2 with little or and sometimes no interest, tried again throughout the year with a day or two of success or no success and then one morning she told me she wanted to wear underwear like me and she never missed after that. This morning was about 1 week before she turned 3. My advice? Just love Adriah and let her determine when it’s time for her. I have yet to hear of a Kindergartner wearing diapers to school! She will do it (and probably in no time flat) when she is ready!

Tara - January 4, 2008 - 5:32 pm

I am a mom of 2 teenage boys and a 21 month old girl. We are starting to bring out the potty for our little Ella and she just wants to sit (fully clothed) on it and read her books. My oldest son we tried and tried around 18-22 months (I also had another baby on the way) with lots of frustration finally we just let him wear diapers and said when he is ready he will do it. One week after he turned 3, I took his morning diaper off, he jumped up, ran to the potty and came back with “underwear that was fun to wear” the rest is history. My second son potty trained himself at 20 months and once again-history. So what I have learned, like Yvette said enjoy this time and let her tell you when SHE is ready-believe me she will do it when her clock says it’s time. Congrat’s on your son. Enjoy the differences of girls and boys. What a blessing they are!!!

Kris Hopper - January 4, 2008 - 11:59 pm

I’m just new at your website. My neice Mandi was one of your clients. You did her wedding in Sept. Loved the pics! Congrats on your pregnancy! I just had a boy (my second) last year and he is now turning 1! Boy how time flies. His brother was quite easy to potty train. First he was dry during the night (first sign of readiness) for about a month before I had him start on the potty. And Yes, we had the potty in the bathroom before that time. We let Branden get use to the potty and would ask him if he wanted to use it each time he was in the bathroom. Most of the time he would not but once in a while he would sit on it clothed (a dry run). We set a date when he would need to wear big boy pants and told him enough times ahead so when that date came he was “ready”. At first he did not like the idea of not wearing pullups (I liked pullups. Had to use them when he would not lay still for diaper changes) but I told him that pullups were for night and for trips. After that he was trained after a week or so! Also NEVER get mad at them for wetting their pants! There will be accidents. Tell them that you are not mad at them and next time will be better! Always praise their efforts! I agree with Yvette…she will do it when she’s ready!

Kim - January 5, 2008 - 4:25 am

Hi! I think I’m going to be the outcast here, but this is our experience. First, we used the inserts that fit on the regular toilet seat – they have ones with Dora, Bob the Builder, etc. (can find at Target or Wal-Mart), and that way, you don’t have to clean out the potty chair insert! (We also used a step stool so the kids can get up onto the toilet, then they move it to the sink so they can wash their hands).

Our daughter wasn’t real interested in the whole thing – we started when she was 2 1/2. We tried everything from a sticker chart to having a present box (filled with trinkets from the dollar store, where if she used the potty 3 times, she could pick a present) to praise, but nothing was very effective. Then when she did start using the toilet, it was only for #1 and not #2. She would go and hide behind the curtains when it was time for that! She was for the most part trained in a week (around her fourth birthday) after I stopped pressuring her, putting her on the toilet every 15-20 minutes, etc. and told her when she was ready, she could let me know.

For our son, he’s been using the potty earlier, basically because he sees his sister using it. He is 3 1/2 and pretty much completely trained (unless he’s too busy playing to stop and use the bathroom). He was the exact opposite of our daughter – trained with #2 from the start, with #1 he was a leaky faucet until recently!!

Our third child, a son, is almost 2 and has been showing interest in using the bathroom. I actually put him on the toilet last week, but nothing happened. I guess this long post is to say you can want them to do it, but frankly, until they’re ready, it’s just not going to happen, at least in my opinion. I found I was much happier once I stopped trying so hard – each child is unique and when they’re ready, they’re ready.

Blessings to you on your pregnancy, and Adriah looked positively beautiful in her Christmas outfit =)


Carrie - January 6, 2008 - 12:30 am

I have to agree with Yvette on the potty training advice. I worked in a day care for nine years, (I also have three sons). Most of the children in the day care were trained around 3 years of age. Very few were potty trained before then. If they don’t have the “sensation” to “go”, they can’t tell you that they have to. (Wouldn’t you rather “clean up” a child who wears a diaper, than one in big girl panties?? I sure would!!) I am now teaching in an elementary school, and I also have never heard of a kindergarten student coming to school wearing diapers! When the time is right, your daughter will tell you she has to go “potty”, and she will. It seems to happen overnight, even though right now it may seem like it never will. Enjoy your daughter, and relax.

Shari - January 7, 2008 - 4:54 pm

I have 3 boys. I learned the hard way with my first who is very strong-willed. My mom had him potty trained when he was 19 m. I’m convinced that it was actually ME who was potty trained because I had to remind him and help him on the toilet and to pull his pants down/up etc… In the end, we had years of ups and downs with his “potty training”. He’s 8 now and I think we’re finally doing good at night. 🙂 With my second two I totally waited for them to figure it out. They were both potty trained (day and night) by the time they were 2 3/4. They were at the age when they could do it by themselves and it was just the thing to do. No pleading, begging, trickery etc… The one thing I did with them was ask them each time I or their dad went to the bathroom, if they wanted to go. If they did, praise them up and down for it. If not, no pressure. I really regret all of the pressure we put on our first son during the process. I would totally do it differently with him if I had the chance.

Good luck to you! And remember, she won’t be 18 and still in diapers!! 🙂

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