Leaning on Friends…

I’ve always thought of myself as a strong person but pregnancy, motherhood, maintaining a business, being a wife and…so much more (all at the same time) can show you how weak you are. I love every aspect of my life and I wouldn’t trade any of it but, today I am tired. I was on the phone for a couple of hours working out the details of new doctors, diabetes clinics and insurance…not my favorite. And, on top of everything, I found out that I’m not able to have midwives for my pre-natal care and the delivery. It’s amazing how the little things add up and how little it take to send a pregnant woman to tears. I had my cry and I’m doing better. I have an appointment tomorrow and hopefully I’ll get some answers. At this point I’m still wondering about everything little thing I eat. I want to do everything I can for my baby but, that’s hard when I don’t know what I’m doing. Seriously, any advice would be welcome. Plus, who knows, there might be another woman out there needing to be encouraged with the same info…I wouldn’t be surprised.

Thank you to all the mom’s who wrote comments so far. It was really encouraging. Keep’em coming.


melanie - February 5, 2008 - 4:40 pm

I have followed your blog since connecting from the Morrison site. Your words as a woman, wife, and mother are so down to earth and true. I know the tears associated with pregnancy, gestational diabetes and the whole thing. I was diagnosed with diabetes during my first pregnancy, but not my second (which I carried twins, and the probability of having was very high). It really is an oxymoron, but I was almost never healthier than when I had diabetes. I was thinking about everything that went into my body. I found it much easier to eat well and exercise everyday when it was for the health of my baby and not just for me. I too was connected with a diabetes dietician who was very helpful. I was able to keep mine under control with diet and daily exercise. The biggest thing about the diet was balancing carbs with protein throughout the day. I kept in mind that one carb serving was equal to 15 grams. I think I ate about 15 servings a day. I ate more often, but smaller amounts. The weirdest thing for me was being required to eat a bedtime snack (peanut butter toast, or a few crackers with cheese)! Veggies were basically a “free” food. I love cereal (not sweet necessarily), but found that many cereals were too high in carbs to enjoy. As an FYI, I got the biggest amount while staying healthy with regular Cheerios. I added some peanut butter and enjoyed it. Anyway, after I figured it out it was not as difficult as I first imagined. It has been 5 years, and I still refer back to the diet from time to time as I found it to be very balanced. I had a healthy pregnancy, gained 23 lbs, and had a healthy 8 lb baby. Best of luck as you continue on the journey and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Elisa - February 5, 2008 - 6:22 pm

I did not have gestational diabetes but I was extremely hypoglycemic. I had to eliminate sugars and eat a lot of protein (and fewer carbs, which turn into sugar in the body). Here’s a website that I love. It’s so encouraging and informative. (There’s also a great forum where you can ask questions to experienced midwives).


My favorite pregnancy book of all time is Ina Mae’s Guide to Natural Childbirth. When I read it, I couldn’t put it down.

Your baby is a good and perfect gift from the Father, and so is the rest of your pregnancy. May it be a joyful time for you!

Linda - February 5, 2008 - 8:34 pm

Hi Naomi, I do not know how I ever found your site, but I visit here occasionally and think you and your artwork is awesome! I am a neonatal nurse here in Iowa, and thought you might find this site helpful in regard to your gestational diabetes..
There are many other sites I could list for you from the University of Iowa’s Hardin M.D. website, and please feel free to email me if I can help you find more information. I have been a neonatal nurse for 28 years. We see a lot of mom’s with gest.diabetes, and they and their babies do beautifully. Try to enjoy every moment of your pregnancy..it is such a special time, and goes by so quickly. Best wishes to you and your family! Linda

Debra - February 5, 2008 - 8:35 pm

I am just two weeks ahead of you in this second pregnancy. While I do not have gestational diabetes, I am what they call “advanced maternal age” since I am over 35 and have a few scary moments with both my pregnancies. All I can say is that my faith gets me through those moments and those really, really tiring days. Know that there are a lot of people praying for you and your baby and looking forward to hearing your wonderful news of a great delivery, midwive or not, and a healthy baby!

PS. Stay away from the internet and pregnancy blogs – you will never get back the hours that get sucked away freaking yourself out.

April - February 5, 2008 - 9:31 pm

I ate tons of cheerios too! That was the best carb count for the filling! Love that someone else found that out too!

Rachel - February 5, 2008 - 10:26 pm

Noemi, sweet one. You are very strong, even when you might feel weak. I understand completely the disappointment of finding out that you can’t go through a midwife – I was so looking forward to that during my second pregnancy! I know that you know what I went through in terms of unexpected experiences and having to have a C-section in the end. Not my ideal, but I wouldn’t trade how it all happened (or Dylan) at this point. You will make it through and we love you, but oh how I feel for how overwhelming it all is some days. Let me know if I can help. I would gladly make calls, drive you somewhere, make you a (diabetes-friendly) meal! xo

Leah W - February 6, 2008 - 12:21 pm

Hey Noemi, I’m not a mom but I’m your friend and I’m praying for you and your baby! Love ya!

Cari - February 6, 2008 - 7:44 pm

Sounds like you need a hug. Love you friend.

Tania - February 6, 2008 - 8:07 pm

Hi Noemi,
I understand 100% what you are going through! I had GD with my first pregnancy and ended up needing medication because I couldn’t control it with diet alone, which was so disappointing. I found GD to be difficult, but reminded myself every day that it was only temporary, and I could and would do whatever it took to have a healthy baby. I’m happy to say that it paid off; my son was full term and weighed 7# 15 oz. In the end, all that matters is having a healthy baby and healthy you no matter how you get there! Keep strong – you’ll make it.

Jac Senske - February 7, 2008 - 10:07 am
April - February 8, 2008 - 7:27 am

The funny thing if you need insulin is that it takes some of the pressure off of what you are eating. I will explain. With my first pregnancy I did need insulin. I just couldn’t keep the blood sugars as low as they would like. I just ate the exact carbs they wanted me to and then the insulin kept things in check. With my second one I was determined not to use insulin so I ate fewer carbs than I was supposed to in an effort to contol it. It was sooooo stressful that the entire weight was put on my shoulders. I know I wasn’t eating as well as I could in an effort to control the process. By the time I had a few weeks left I was beggin the doctor to put me on insulin, but he explained that I was so close to end that I could just keep doing what I was doing, bleck! Anyway, by the third one I just followed the program, used the insulin when they told me and it was so much easier. Giving yourself insulin shots isn’t that bad and it doesn’t even hurt thankfully! So, what I wanted to encourage you with is that it isn’t the end of the world if you need insulin and taking it is WAY less stressful that being paniced because you ate too many carbs when you really haven’t just to keep your numbers down. You really may not need insuin, but I just wanted to encourage you to not be fearful of it, it is going to be okay. Lord Bless You!

Theresa - February 15, 2008 - 1:26 am

Hi Noemi,
Just wanted to let you know that I have had three friends who had gestational diabetes and all three delivered healthy babies. They also did not have as much weight to lose after their pregnancies because of how they needed to watch what they ate while pregnant.
You are doing so well to keep it all together with everything that you have on your plate right now. Your photography is so beautiful and inspiring…Just take one day at a time.

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