To Pre-school or to not Pre-school…that is my question!

Okay. this blog is to all the mom’s who have kids older then 3 years old (and to everyone else who has an opinion and wants to share it) So, I’m not planning on sending Adriah to pre-school but, I’m interested in hearing all the reasons why people do send their kids…and then hearing why other people keep their kids home.

I have no intentions of homeschooling at this stage but, anything is possible.

That’s all I have to say…this blog was more about hearing from you! And I can’t wait to read your comments.

Carrie - August 17, 2008 - 10:02 pm

Being an elementary teacher, I’ll tell you a few things we notice about children starting kindergarten, who have been to a preschool or daycare. Being with children their age they learn to share, take turns, and are able to separate from mom much easier than children who have been at home until they start school. These may not seem like “big things” to a lot of people, but to a teacher, they are huge! I would recommend at least one year of preschool, or some place for your child/children to go one or two days a week, without a parent. I hope this helps .
I really enjoy reading your blog. You are a wonderful photographer!

April - August 17, 2008 - 10:11 pm

I do homeschool my children, BUT even if I didn’t, I still don’t think that I would send my kids to preschool. Much of what they could learn there academically I can teach them at home and the social aspect that most people tend to care about (those that I have run into) can be acheived by the friends we spend time with and attending church functions and MOPS.

So, I would say, I don’t do preschool with my kids. It also tends to be a lot of running for the moms that bring their kids and I have really preferred a quieter lifestyle with less running.

Pat - August 18, 2008 - 7:26 am

I’m a photo loving lurker…but a mom too and for some reason was inspired to comment on this one. 🙂 My kids are older now, but when they were little I enrolled all of us in the Early Childhood Family Education Program (ECFE) in our community. My boys got a taste of preschool (only a few hours for a few days a week) and I had the wonderful chance to meet other mom’s, to speak openly about parenting to women that truely understood, and most importantly to learn different things to try when my parenting skills were lacking. Another thing that I liked about it was that they provided daycare for my youngest…giving me some valued one-on-one time with my older son. It might be an option to look into! Thanks for listening. Love your photos!

cyndee - August 18, 2008 - 8:24 am

Hi Noemi, Just thought I’d give you my insight. I was a pre-school aide for the past ten years. I worked with Pre-K students but our school also had a 3-year old program. My two oldest children were born in a time when Pre-K was still VERY optional. I did not send my oldest, but sent my second-born as she was a November birthday and I thought it would be nice for her to have something a couple mornings a week so she wouldn’t be too bored with just me and the baby. My son was born in August and before I even got him home from the hospital I had people asking if I was going to hold him back! So, I sent him to pre-K so I would have help deciding whether or not he would be ready for kindergarten. I loved the school so much that I wound up sending my youngest there, too. I don’t really agree with the concept of 3-year olds in school, but I brought my granddaughter along with me 2 days a week because I thought it would be fun for both of us. She loved it. I know other moms send their children because they are glued to mom’s hip and she feels they need to learn to separate. Other moms are overwhelmed with little ones at home and want the break of having ONE of them out of the house a little bit. Bottom line: If Adriah seems to need company or help with sharing, waiting her turn, etc. and you feel great about having her go – send her to pre-school. Look for one that is NOT a daycare and doesn’t push academics too much. Get a feel for the teachers. Make sure you feel totally comfortable with them. And finally, look for a program that is only 2 or 3 mornings a week. That is plenty. Oh! And I almost forgot, make sure they include the parents A LOT! Sorry this is long – hope it helps!

KS Dallas - August 18, 2008 - 8:27 am

I don’t know about other places, but in my area (Dallas, TX) – preschool was really only available to the kids that were not ready to start kindergarten due to language barriers or those that are developmentally challenged. Our only option was private preschool or no preschool. My daughter’s daycare did preschool so I didn’t really have to make that choice. She would not have gone to preschool if the daycare didn’t include it as part of their normal structure for her age group.

My personal feeling is that it is not necessary if your child can do the ABCs, knows her colors, etc. (whatever basics the school requires). If there are separation issues – that might be a reason to consider it but for some reason, I get the feeling that your daughter is socially acclimated and will do just fine.


Melissa K - August 18, 2008 - 12:52 pm

I think that preschool is really good for kids. I have worked at a preschool/daycare for the last 8 yrs and my kids have been there since they have been babys. I have seen a big difference in kids that have been through a preschool program they are ready to go to school then other kids. My kids went to school with noproblem of being around other kids and listening to other teachers. Plus the seperation from parents to school goes much better. There is also lots of programs that let you do a morning preschool.

Noemi - August 18, 2008 - 2:33 pm

Your responses/answers have been amazing! Thank you for taking the time to talk this through with me. Seriously, I totally appreciate your input! I’m going to keep her with me this year but I have lots to think about for next fall!

Anyone putting their kids into French or Spanish immersion? I’m kinda interested in that too. OR the other option is a charter school that is total old school way of teaching with uniforms and everything…any thoughts on that?

Love you all!

Leslee - August 18, 2008 - 5:11 pm

We put our oldest (6) in private pre-k and that was great for him. He went into Kinder knowing all he needed to know. He was able to move onto other things last year that he wouldn’t listen to us trying to teach him here at home. (I am an elemntary teacher). We just pulled our daughter (3) out of private sitter and put her into a pre-K 3 program. She just started today so we shall see how she will do. She is so eager to learn and wants to do everything that brother is doing, we decided that it would be the best for our family to go ahead and start her now. We feel like she will just grow leaps and bounds.

Carrie - August 18, 2008 - 9:05 pm

Hello again Noemi,
You’re asking some really good questions about schools. I teach in an elementary Catholic School where the students wear uniforms. All of the teachers (and most of the parents) love, love, love the fact that the students all dress alike. We have no problems with who is wearing what “name brand” of clothing. The students don’t have to feel bad if they don’t have the high priced clothes that others are wearing. It makes for a friendly learning environment when clothes aren’t an issue. I’m not saying it’s a “perfect” environment, but it is certainly a pleasant one.
When checking out schools, go to each one more than once. Also, go there at different times during the day, to see what happens in the morning, and afternoon. You should feel comfortable while walking around in the building. If you don’t, it’s not the right choice for your children. If you can, talk to some of the students in the school. They usually are pretty honest about what goes on there. Hope this helps.

Shari Schwarz - August 18, 2008 - 11:29 pm

Hi Noemi, Here’s a late post but I find this topic interesting. I have three boys and I’ve done a different thing with each of them for preschool. The oldest went for 1/2 a year after I informally homeschooled him for a few months. My second I totally homeschooled for preschool. My third is starting preschool tomorrow. He’ll just go 2 days a week. When I think about why we did something different for each one it really depended on what was right for each individual and what we were able to do depending on circumstances at the time. Go with your heart and you guys will be just fine! 🙂

Maureen - August 19, 2008 - 7:22 am

Quite a different perspective – I’m 21 and not a mom, but I totally remember loving preschool! It was a cute little preschool at a church in town, and we sang and played games and did shows for our parents. And I was quite attached to mom, so it was probably a really good start for me. So the only input I’d give is: I bet Adriah would sure have fun at preschool!

As for immersion schools, etc, I don’t know much except my cousin attended a Spanish immersion school while they lived in DC, and she loved it. Teaching kids another language at a young age is such a great bonus.

I’m sure whatever you decide will be great!

KS Dallas - August 19, 2008 - 8:36 am

The state of Texas requires a second language as a requirement to graduate high school. It is much easier for kids to learn a second language at a younger age so I would definitely recommend looking in to that. Not sure if she is too young or not but maybe something to keep in mind a few years down the road.

A funny to go with it… my sister in law used to work as a waitress. Well, around here the majority of restaurants’ kitchen staffs are Hispanic. No one she worked with knew that my sister-in-law was fluent in Spanish. She would hear them talking about her, customers and other employees all the time. She let this go on for a long time and then one day just blurted out something to them in Spanish. They immediately realized that she understood everything they were saying all this time. I would have loved to see the look on their faces at that moment!


Emily C - August 19, 2008 - 10:35 am

Hi Noemi! We think pre-school is great, if you can find a good one! We liked it for the obvious reasons of academic/social growth for them. I know that Philip and Esther grew in a lot of areas that I didn’t even realize needed growth, and some weaknesses were exposed that I didn’t even realize we had. The main one I’m thinking of, is that we realized that Philip and Esther were so use to everything being “fair” (because they’re twins, everything has to be equal!), so when something unfair happened, my kids really showed their ugly side! We are able to identify this and work on it at home. I think it’s not just good for the kids… but good for the parents too. I’ve really valued that opportunities that we’ve had to learn/grow as a family. Phlilp and Esther have spent the whole summer asking, “mom, when do we get to go back to school?” I feel like allowing them to have a slower start and ease into school, will help them to enjoy it and be more confident later on. I can’t imagine sending them into a classroom with 30 kids for full day at this point in time! Even if you’re planning on homeshooling later, I think Pre-school would be a great idea, so that Adriah will understand the concept, and have the chance to learn some basic classroom disciplines… this would make it easier for you. ;o)

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