Women and their hair…

I don’t understand what’s up with women and their hair but, I know it’s a very real phenomenon. I can tell you all about it because I’ve experience every kind of trauma and triumph! Here’s a few questions and examples:

1. Why do we spend a year growing your hair to the longest it’s ever been only to cut it on a whim? Is it the senseless goal and need to prove ourselves? Or the need for control?

2. Why spend $100+ on coloring & cutting? Is it the feeling of being catered to and spa-ized? Or because we want to say publicly, “We’re worth it!” Only to have something to complain about later.
3. Why do women do drastic things to their hair when they’re going through HUGE transitions in their life? Is it a silent cry for help? Or the need for power over something/ controlled change?

4. Why do we cry over our hair? (I have!) Why does a great cut or color make me feel like I’m top of the world? (I love flicking my hair after new color! My world looks brighter!)

5. Why is our hair so wrapped up in our identity? I remember describing my hair last last summer…the redhead with a “pastor wife” in the front and “rock star” in the back…this equaled a “cool” photographer in my mind!

The funny thing is I’ve always loved hair even as a little girl. I’m usually told that I should’ve become a stylist and maybe someday I will. I’m open to it but, right now photography’s treating me pretty good!

I know you have good stories and I’d love to hear them.

Are you wondering what brought about this random topic. I had a friend come over and dye my hair tonight and we turned all the blonde bits pink…not good for a redhead! So we went to Walgreens, bought more dye and fixed it! It went from trauma to triumph in 2 hours. We even had time to add some cute new blonde bits. It’s subtle but the process wasn’t. It got me thinking about girls and their hair. Can’t wait to hear your story 🙂

Britni - February 7, 2008 - 10:40 pm

Loved the topic since I love to color my hair and try new colors very regularly. I can relate to having the blonde bits turn pink. I was having my hair done with red and blonde highlights and had the same thing happen. However I was having a friend do it while she was in beauty school and to fix the blonde she used some stuff called shimmery white shampoo. I only had to wash my hair with it a couple times. It worked great to remove the pink and make the blonde shine. Not sure where you could buy it since I got mine from her but it might be something to keep in mind or look for if you try it again.

Cari - February 8, 2008 - 12:56 pm

I would love to have a cute shorter style hair cut but Michael would be sad to see it go – so on continues the long hair I have had for years! The things we do for the ones we love!

Sarah U. - February 8, 2008 - 2:25 pm

I have never commented on your posts…but I do love to read them! This one made me laugh and think about how many times I have been wanting so badly to grow my hair out and then it just frustrates me so I cut it all off. And the one part about huge transitions. When I had Jadelyn and we had just gotten her home from the NICU only to have her go back to the hospital a few days later….I had the longest hair I have ever had…but the day after she went to the hospital again I went into the salon, had them cut it all off and put in some blonde streaks. Since everything else was out of my control…I had one thing that I could make the choice on it seemed like…and it was my hair. I guess I thought if I don’t like it…it will grow back. Darrel tried to talk me out of it…but it was like I had to do it. Tell ya what…made me feel TONS better! Thanks for the fun post! 🙂

Cate - February 8, 2008 - 4:20 pm

It’s sad, but true that having great hair or bad hair makes a huge difference in how you feel about yourself. After several botched haircuts over the years, and a couple of horrifying at-home highlights, I stopped caring how much I spent at the salon, as long as I felt good when I walked out. You feel like if someone has the guts to charge you $150 for their services, they’ve got to be good. But after spending a ton of money this week and walking out looking like a blonde skunk, I realized that expensive does not always mean expertise. Every time I looked in the mirror I was aghast all over again at what had been done! I could feel people’s eyes sliding up to the top of my head as I talked to them, and I wished I could have attached a sign saying, “I’m aware of the problem, and I’m working to correct it.” Fortunately, I am back to a more natural look, and much happier because of it. Noemi, consider yourself blessed that you have a friend who will do your hair for you, and that Walgreens is only a quick drive away.

FYI for anyone considering orange and white stripes in their hair – I can tell you from experience that it is not a good look.

Jackie - February 10, 2008 - 11:32 am

Love reading your blog! I’ve been a budding photographer since I was little and used whatever camera I could get my hands on. Your photography is beautiful!! I wish I had had you for a photographer for my wedding 13 years ago! Someday I’d love to meet up with you (I live in Rochester) and pick your brain for all the help you could give me! The tips you have on here help too.

Anyway, I can relate to the hair thing. I’ve been growing my hair out for over a year and can finally get it into a decent ponytail. It’s still not great, but that is thanks to the 3 butchers (oops stylists) I went to. Finally decided it was worth a 2 hour drive one way to have my sister-in-law cut it again (she used to cut it for years when we lived nearby). In only 2 cuts she has made it sooooooo much better by fixing what she could. Now that I’ve grown it out though, I’m thinking of cutting it. It is totally a girl thing.

What I would find interesting (especially given that you photograph so many beautiful brides) is to check in 6 months after they are married and find out how many of them cut their hair short. I went from hair a few inches below my shoulders to mid neck about 2 months after I got married. Maybe it is a rite of passage? I find it interesting that so many women I know did that though.

jones - February 11, 2008 - 12:32 pm

I always thought you weren’t supposed to color your hair while pregnant… something about chemicals getting into your blood stream???

Rachel - February 11, 2008 - 10:22 pm

I am going to continue putting my hair in pigtails until I am waaay too old to carry it off. (Turning 40 this year and no plans to stop wearing it that way yet.) It makes me feel spunky and kind of carefree. I was such a responsible and worried child…it’s like I need this silly hairstyle to remind me to not take everything so seriously. So, if you see me in my garden with overalls on and pigtails which may or may not be graying blonde, try not to laugh. Just think of the young, fun-loving girl I am celebrating.

p.s. I will keep up with my highlights though…and no split ends!

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